Monday, December 29, 2008

Priya Swinging


Lakshmi got to the top of the punching bag! She is so thrilled. She has tried for a few days to do it. It takes alot of strength to climb up like that, and to shimmy to the top. Much less hoist your body on to the top.

So here is a photo to celebrate her arrival to the top.


Priya is playing in the backyard right now, and I snatched this video of her swinging from the top of the punching bag (Ravi's favorite). Unfortunately it was put up there in the first place by the men who lived here before us, but it will be taken down and the kids are going to be getting a swing in it's place. I'm searching on freecycle right now because I don't plan to buy one. : )
If I can get these video's to upload (no sound sorry), there will be two. The second one is Priya shimmying up the punching bag, with help from Ravi. LOL
We're having a lovely day! Jyotsna

Saturday, December 27, 2008

Work Day/Play Day





Since we moved into this house, we have been trying to clean up the backyard. The four young men who lived here before us, and they tore up the house, the backyard, the fence, the roof (there are logs and bricks up there yet, and I don't know how to get up there). The worst thing they did on the outside, in the backyard was that they dug a fire pit and had a wood chopping contest here. So, there is split wood everywhere, broken beer bottles in the fire pit, charcoal bars and more broken glass and silver wear in the pit. It was all burnt, broken and trashed. We have the large urban garbage receptical, and I know we have filled 15 of them clearing out the yard. We are closer today than we ever have been to getting it all done, and we've been here for 14 months.

So, to celebrate the broken glass being cleaned up, we played in the back yard.
The kids had a good time. One of the things the four boys did was hang a punching bag from the tree. It's an eye sore, and I am about to bring it down and hang up a swing. So today was the last day the kids could play on it, and with it. They actually like it alot.

Here are the photos from celebrating the backyard being cleaned up.

The stockings were hung from the chimney with care...

This is the holiday gift opening run down, starting with Priya on the 25, and Ravi and Lakshmi on the 26th, since they didn't want to open presents at midnight on the 25th. Smart kids!

From our home to yours!
Jyotsna











Thursday, December 25, 2008

This is for YOU!

T'was the night before Christmas....






It's after midnight and Santa isn't going to be here unless I get to work! Nevertheless, I wanted to share some traditions that we follow on the night before Christmas (even though we don't celebrate the official holiday).

First, we make cookies and tea for Santa. Priya decorated the cookies (I'm looking forward to eating them!).



Then we set the table up with the tea and cookies (usually in our Santa plate, where is it this year?



Then we read our favorite holiday books, even though they are all getting to be a bit young for the kids.




Finally, before bedtime, I take the reindeer's snack outside and spread it on the ground. The reindeers get roughcut oatmeal for endurance, and a bit of brown sugar for a quick start. This year Priya didn't want to watch, because she didn't get in bed until nearly Midnight! She believes that Santa arrives shortly after midnight.


So, when the kids were a bit younger, my neighbor or I would stand outside the kids windows saying, "Ho Ho Ho", or "Merry Christmas". We have also left shoes out for candy, but it didn't go over very well.

The entire day is full of these activities, hot chocolate, fun movies and usually visiting with friends. This year I hurt my back and so we stayed home. Also, because Ravi and Lakshmi are not with us on the night before Christmas, we have created our own tradition of just the two of us. My parents wanted us to come to be with them, but I realized that Priya's tradition shouldn't be uprooted.

Hope you enjoyed the photos, and I'm wishing you a very happy holiday...from work, from daily household care, from the humdrum of driving kids everywhere, and homework, and of course from the fighting siblings. I can't say enough what peppermint does to soothe the nerves of my kids, but especially of me. I hung 12 candy canes on the tree, and I've already let Priya have two of them, just so I could withstand her excitability. I realized about 10am today that Priya was literally just hanging on until bedtime. She was bouncing, wiggling, running circles around me, and talking 90 to nothing. And because she is adopted, I think there is always something uncertain about the holidays, especially with the thought of a big man with white hair, in a red suit, just showing up at our house in the middle of the night.

Wednesday, December 24, 2008

Priya's handwork







Priya has been making gifts for family and this is one of the things she is making for Ravi. Not sure what it is (besides the Grizzley's logo) but she designed it herself, and is embroidering by herself. She's quite a girl.

She also made these three bean bags, one for her, one for her brother, and one for her sister. She is quite a hard worker. The red tree decoration was something I made, that she wanted to put in her photo.

Jyotsna

Holiday Crunch-y




It's 4:49am on Christmas Eve. I know, I know, I don't celebrate Christmas, but I do celebrate the holidays, family, friends, my children and even myself. So, the Holiday Crunch is on to finish up all of my projects that I have started, and that is why I got up so early this morning. Actually, I've been up one hour preparing, cutting fabrics, stitching up, finishing up, anything that is not finished, is going to be rounded up, and finished up today. I plan to relax with Priya and some friends tonight (I may be so relax that I will be sleeping!).

I titled this post Holiday Crunch-y for a reason. I have only purchased the kids two gifts each this year, and those two gifts each are either handmade by someone else, or items for the kids to handmake things that they want.

Sometimes I stop in my tracks and think how sad it will be on Christmas morning, which is our Pancha Ganapati holiday final day. Will they be crying, angry, sad, disappointed? I don't know. I worry about it alot, because I have always showered them with lots of toys and goodies during the holidays. But this year is different. I've turned a little crunchier (term for natural living - so crunchy like granola, ha ha). Thus the Holiday Crunch-y title; trying to get everything done (crunch time) and everything is handmade this year.

Okay, I thought I would give a sneak peak at what I am working on right now. I still ahve clothing, mittens and armies to do,(not the military - goodness(!) - but these warm woolies that go OVER the arms, and only fingers and thumb stick out). I have purses, shopping bags, ect, ect, ect.

The items I'm working on right now are for my neices, one who definately sews, and one who is now 19, and should have some sewing supplies on hand. The pincushions are sewn with a light green paisely print on top, and a army (hate that word) green felted wool on the bottom. I've sewn them, turned them inside out (after nipping the edges) and stuffed them with wool. Now, I have to close them, then start wrapping the embroidery floss around them, which divides into flower petals.

You can do this too, by looking for a free pin cusion pattern online! If I find time, I'll post a link later.

Also, I made this hip little purse for Lakshmi, out of the bottom of pants legs, and the lining from adorable green frogs on a pink background.







Happy Holidays,
Jyotsna

Tuesday, December 23, 2008

The Secret Life of Bees




I know that everyone in the world has already gotten around to reading The Secret Life of Bee's by Sue Monk Kidd, but I haven't. I am enjoying this book enormously.
First of all, from the point of beekeeping, my father used to keep a few hives. Honestly, he didn't go to the detail of keeping his bee's like the women in this book, but I really enjoyed going with him from hive to hive, watching the bee's activities, and especially got excited when a queen left the hive (swarmed) to land on some unsuspecting branch nearby. Sometimes the conditions of the hive are unsupporting to the queen, or another queen has been born, and so the queen leaves with her support staff, to start again.

It would always take me by surprise to see this gigantic glob of bees stuck to each other. I found it very interesting that they didn't fall from the limb of the tree, to the ground. While the swarm was very heavy, the bees clung to each other and surrounded their queen, planning their next destination where pollen collecting (by the worker bees), egg laying (by the queen) and honey making would begin again.

My father would let me smoke the bees. I would gather pine needles from the forest floor and put them into the smoker, then light the entire thing on fire, allowing it to smoulder. It had a bellow attached to it, and I would pump it happily, while my dad would climb into the tree and begin to shake the swarm, until they dropped very nicely into a hive box. Emergency avoided, the secret life of the bees would start again, and I would have a new respect for the new hive.

I am totally entralled with the book, and if only I could read it non-stop like I usually do, till I finish. But alas, I have holiday baking, and gift making to do, and I am running out of time. If you have the opportunity, and you having already read this book, this is definately a great read. Get a cup of tea, some honey, stir and read.

Jyotsna

Saturday, December 20, 2008

Winter Solstice




Winter Solstice
It's a winter solstice
dark without light.
And we bring it in gently,
in the middle of the night.

It's a winter solstice a ringing
as we gather round the fire.
It's a winter solstice a singing
as with listen with harp and lyre.

It's a winter solstice
dark without light.
And we bring it in gently,
in the middle of the night.

It's a winter solstice that's sacred
sharing chalice and the wine.
It's a winter solstice, no hatred.
inward now, we take our time.

It's a winter solstice,
dark without light.
And we bring it in gently,
in the middle of the night.

It's a winter solstice the coldest,
fire flickers in our eyes.
It's a winter solstice the longest,
longest night, the year, our lives.

Winter Solstice is on December 21st this year, and I wish you a very happy and joyous
time. It is the celebration of the longest night of the year. For some, it's an inward time, to look over the past year, and for others, it's the beginning of planning for the new year. Seed catalogues, recipes, life changes are amoung some of the plans.

The kids and I have lit our advent wreath each weekend, reminding ourselves how important the sunlight is and being thankful for the sun.

I see careful planning for the change in our economy, putting food away so I will have reserves, creating more local connections, making new friends, and planning for the increase in income.

What do you see in your future?

Happy Solstice and Happy Holidays,
Jyotsna

Saturday, December 13, 2008

Holiday Photos



From our family to yours! Tomarrow our obligations to Ravi's BoyChoir will be over with until January! YEA! Last night we had a few friends over for a holiday get together, to eat chili and cornbread (hey, we're in the south!) and some cookies and candy.

After a little while, I realized I had invited ONLY adoptive families. Life is funny.

Anyway, it's the first time that I have invited friends over for the holidays since my divorce, and it felt good to celebrate, even if it was a very simple event.

This morning I took pictures of the kids in front of tree. I thought I would share those pictures. My goodness my kids are growing...Ravi is nearly my height!

Sunday, December 07, 2008

Holiday Photos from the past...



This is a photo of baby Lakshmi and big brother Ravi during Lakshmi's first holiday with me.




Photo of adorable Ravi in front of our "advent" calendar.



And a photo of pretty Priya in front of the "advent" calender.


From our house to yours!
Jyotsna

Friday, December 05, 2008

Happy Holiday Blog Challenge


Happy Holidays. You hear it every time you turn on the radio or television. What really is a happy holiday? Is it a phrase that has turned towards redundancy? Is it a word that eludes to a euphoric feeling during the month of December?

In my family, Happy Holidays is a phrase that expresses how we hope you feel, during YOUR holiday, no matter which one you share with your family, or our family. And whenever I use that phrase, I try my best not to sound cliche.

I really believe that there are three essential ways to have a happy holiday. I don't think my ways are the ONLY ways, but in my view, the type of happy holiday you find on television, or the type you can buy from the store, is not at all what I am talking about. I'm talking about sharing a cup of tea and a peice of double fudge brownie with your best friend, or having a meal with your family members, with the family you only see a few times a year, and the happiness that we are able to find inside ourselves when we know that this moment, this day and this time is safe, secure and comfortable.

I'd love to know what makes a happy holiday for you.

Here are my favorite three:

1. Knowing my children have everything they really need.
2. Resolving any bitterness that may be there, amoung friends and family.
3. Knowing that a certain someone loves me and loves me for who I am.

If you have three favorite ways of knowing you are having a happy holiday, please post them to your blog and let me know. I'll blogroll you, and point out your post on my blog.

Love,
Jyotsna

Thursday, December 04, 2008

Homemade Holidays

This year, like the others, the children and I are making our holiday gifts by hand.

One of my favorite sites to peruse is Etsy.com, which is full of photos and listings for beautiful and quirky handmade items, from recycled mittens to "softies" which are hand or machine sewn toys.

Check it out when you have a moment.

Jyotsna

Kidology 101

Every Monday and Thursday, Ravi goes to an after school activity, BoyChoir.
Lakshmi and Priya have to wait with me for two hours each day, while I wait for Ravi.
Sometimes they do school work, sometimes they play in the Mother's Day Out play yard, and sometimes they sit in the car with me playing with toys.

While we are waiting, the girls always have to go to the bathroom, or want to get the scooter and their helmets out and ride. They are always thirsty, no matter how much water they had before we left, or what types of snacks they had, they are hungry.

Lakshmi: Mom, I'm thirsty.
Mom: I know.
Lakshmi: Mom, I'm hungry.
Mom: I know.
Lakshmi: Mom, I'm bored.
Mom: I know.
Lakshmi: Mom, you know what?
Mom: What?
Lakshmi: You don't know everything!

Ha ha!

Jyotsna

Tuesday, December 02, 2008

STRETCHING your dollars while shopping for groceries...

A mom on a very popular parenting forum posted asking for help saying this, "I have literally $20.00 to get groceries. We have VERY little already."




This mom is pregnant, she has four children (one is still nursing) and a husband who is unable to work temporarily due to sickness. That's 6 hungry eaters!

She got great responses:

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Whenever we're low on groceries I make Somali Rice and boil some eggs to eat on the side and/or make an egg 'curry' using tomatoes or tomatoe sauce with whatever spices and then add sliced boiled eggs to it.

For somali rice: sorry no exact measurements it never makes a diff. really anyway
-sauate some onions
-then saute some garlic (or use onion and garlic powder)
add a tsp each of cumin powder, curry powder and cardamom and a cinnamon stick. saute for a min. then add the rice --we always make 3 cups at a time--and water and get it to a boil then simmer.
Very easy and yummy.
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Another mom said this:


Are there any food banks or food pantries in your area?
Does your state/county do "emergency" food stamps?
How many people are you feeding? Does anyone get a meal elsewhere (like at public school)??
Do you/can you get WIC or "Commodity Foods"?

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Another mom said this:

I'd get beans and split peas. A bag of cheap potatoes. Get some milk.

Then I'd check out what things are on sale at your grocery store. Canned pumpkin and green beans might be on sale right now.
Bananas are a cheap fruit and I think its good to have some fresh veggies if you can. Let each kid have half a banana each day or every other day or mash it up in the oatmeal. A couple cans of the cheapeast tomato sauce.

For meal ideas:
homemade bread with chili spiced beans
beans and rice with salsa and cheese or sour cream
pumpkin bread and fried eggs
rice cooked in tomato sauce and spices
Split pea soup
refried beans and spanish rice with homemade tortillas

Also don't forget to ask on freecycle. Perhaps someone has some extra items they will let you have.

Thankfully she got great ideas shared, and a family member came up with some money for them to buy some food. I wanted to share some ideas on how to stretch out her budget more. Since I have alot of experience at this, I wrote the following:


You've gotten some great ideas, and all I can say is that I have about $300 a month for food, which I turn into a $550 menu.

I have three kids, one is nearly a teenager, who eats ALOT of food. We eat tons of soups. A watched a friend of mine recently boil cabbage, and then take the water from that and pour into a glass container to put in the fridge. She does it with every single veggie that she cooks, she saves the water. The water has alot of the vitamens that are cooked off of the veggie.

I'm doing it now, and saving this veggie water for "broth". I start my soups with this broth now, and they are better. I don't need to buy veggie broth now, and because we make alot of soup, it saves money.

I think you have had great ideas for the short run, but I wanted to give you some long run ideas, so when you have money, you can make your food stretch out as far as possible.

1. First and foremost, the protein that we get is mostly legumes, seeds, and nuts. For beans, I buy them dry. I see no reason to pay for already cooked beans, unless I'm saving for my emergency pantry. My favorites are: White/Navy, Black Turtle Beans, Red Beans, Lentils (both green and yellow) and 15 bean soup is fun. Cooking beans is very easy. First soak for a night, then turn them on when you get up in the morning. Beans are cooked when you smoosh a bean, and the starchy looking part is not shiny, but dull and smooshy. I never leave the grocery store without 1 large package of peanuts with shells, popcorn, almonds and cashews. Buy it all plain, unroasted, unsalted. You can use these items to increase your protein, and it's a healthy way to snack. I also buy a 4 lb peanut butter that can last us for 2 months sometimes.

2. We eat two types of rice, and I mix them together to get the best benefit and flavor: Brown basmati, and plain white rice. If you have a rice cooker, it's easy to cook rice, and you can toss in lentils to the rice to cook. If you do that, you have to push the cook button twice (cook twice).

3. We buy our fresh veggies from a local store. Their prices are low because they buy the veggies directly from the farmer, instead of having them shipped in. This store has a grocery basket twice a week, which will be full of items that need to be cooked right away. They are usually selling for pennies on the dollars. Once we bought $20 worth of veggies from there, and spent $4.00 on rice, and we had soup all week long, the kids were full and it was a life saver.

4. We have a breakfast cereal rule here, which I am sure my kids don't like, but it has changed our ability to get by better. No sugary cereals except for "Honey Gone Nuts Granola" which I buy in bulk. I fill up the cereal container (big plastic thing that holds two boxes of regular cherios) and when it is all gone, I don't replace it till next month. When it's gone, we eat oatmeal, homemade muffins, homemade pancakes, homemade biscuits, eggs and toast (homemade bread)....get the point? We make everything by hand for breakfast after the granola is gone.

5. Milk: I buy 1 gallon of milk (whole milk) and 1 box of Kroger nonfat drymilk. The kids know the routine, and I did break them in SLOWLY. They can drink as much of the milk as they want, but when the gallon turns to a 1/2 gallon, I make up one packet of dry milk = quart of fluid milk, and I mix it into the half gallon left. I don't add vanilla like my mom did, I just mix. The kids are used to it now, and they still get their protein. When that gallon (1 1/2 gallon) is gone, I buy another gallon of milk, and we start the routine again. So for my two kids who drink milk, I end up buying around 3 gallons of milk a month, which isn't bad. I know this may sound gross, but I used spoiled milk (not curdled btw) to make baked goods. It works well, and uses the 2 - 4 day old milk that may be left over. WE NEVER DRINK SPOILED MILK.

6. We buy two special loafs of bread per month (Alvarado Street bread) and some onion buns and I make the rest of our bread. It has taken me about two years to be able to make most of our bread, but I'm glad I do, because I control what is in it, and I know when my kids eat it, they are eating healthy stuff. If you make your bread, try to find a friend who has a wheat berry grinder, which will increase the value of your bread.

You don't have to have a bread maker to make your own bread. I get alot of enjoyment out of making bread by hand. Get a good recipe, that describes how to make the dough, and TRY IT. Start with a simple recipe, like a white flour bread, and then work your way towards healthy.

Look at the thrift store for well made bread pans, large flat sheets ect. When you start making bread, you will need simple kitchen tools, but any pan or sheet will do. I like the newer "folded" bread pans from William Sonoma (I got one for a gift) and they are ample for a double loaf. You may want to make rolls, bread sticks, pizza dough or loaf bread, but this will seriously cut down on your consumption of regular bread, and allow you to increase the health of your bread.

7. Stop spending money on Fast Foods:
I know it seems impossible avoid spending money on fast foods, but it is the one thing that eats up most of my money, and we can never find healthy choices like we would at home. So, to avoid this, I found a pizza brand (I like Krogers Sourdough) which is excellent and cheap. We add extra cheese, mushrooms and olives to it, or feta cheese and greek olives to it. We can get it going fast, and the cost on my budget is so much less, that I know it is right.

Never waste any foods. If it is good and no one ate it (I'm not talking about on the plates, but I know people who do this), scrap all the leftover veggies even peices of veggies into a freezer storage container, and over time fill it up. When it is full, you have veggies for your next pot of soup. I never waste left over rice. We like to save it up in a container and make fried rice with it. Most families have plenty of plastic containers to save food, but if you don't, I save the yogurt containers we empty, and they are great for freezing leftover soup or a few peices of cornbread. Just take all the left overs you have, and use them. Avoid having veggie waste by cooking the veggies before they go bad. I used to have this problem, and I corrected it by keeping my eye on what I have, and going ahead and cooking (boiling, steaming) and freezing. I feel good knowing I always have some frozen veggies for a quick spot, and knowing that I have stopped wastage.

8. Another area of money waste is with the juice boxes, and juice in general. Our bodies need water more than any other liquid. If you can help your family to drink water before grabbing something else, you can save money, and prevent health problems. When giving young children fruit juice, make sure you dilute it. When my kids were little ones, I diluted it by %50. Now, if I get a chance to do so before they get their hands on it, I dilute it by 15%. Also, if you have left over (unsalted) veggie juices, you can mix them with your fruit juices, which is yummy and healthy.

Instead of drinking a ton of juice, we save our money and do smoothies.
My favorite recipe for four of us:
2 large banana's
2 cups of water
2 tablespoons of flax seed
2 cups of finely chopped up kale or spinach,mix this before putting any other fruit in. (looks like a shrek smoothy at this point, and quite tasty!)
1 cup of frozen (or fresh) blueberries
1/2 cup pineapple which naturally sweetens.
I use agave nectar to sweeten to taste.
When all said and done, it is purple.

We drink one of these a few times a week. This is an excellent choice for your use of fruit, and a great source of vitamens.

9. Cheese, egg and yogurt:
I buy 2 dozen eggs monthly, 3 pounds of cheese monthly and 2 - 3 yogurts monthly. I don't buy "American Cheese", but instead hard cheeses, which can be chopped, shredded or melted. We buy high quality yogurts like Sunny Field Farms, in plain and "Banilla". We use plain yogurt with our mexican dishes instead of sour cream, since it has more value. Since I use alot of spices while cooking, we use yogurt to cool off our tongues, to follow or end an Indian meal, or just to snack on.

I hope this helps you to STRETCH out your grocery money a bit more, which helps prevent not having enough food. Since rice, dry beans, nuts, seeds, oats, dry fruits and dry milk can last for a long time, there's alot you can do to survive when you only have a few dollars to buy the most needed items.

Take some time to Freecycle some glass jars (think large pickle glass jars) to put your bulk purchases. Having the large jars reminds you to keep extra on hand, just in case you run short in cash one month.


In todays burgeoning financial climate, families are tightening their spending and there is no doubt that food sometimes becomes an issue once all the bills are paid.
I hope that this blog post will help anyone reading, who may find themselves in the same tight spot.

May your belly's be full, and may your beds be warm!

Good luck!
Jyotsna

Thursday, November 27, 2008

Happy Thanksgiving!


Hello and Happy Thanksgiving to my readers!
I've taken time today to create a list of things I am thankful for:

1. My sister who is doing well at this point, for my parents and for my brother.

2. My children, who are healthy, eat well, have lots of fun and are very sweet and kind when they want to be.

3. For my friends. For Kandy, Dawn, Rosemary, Suru, Hallie, Sarah, Chris, Jamie, Natalie, Sarai, Sara, Ram and Peirre, and to women who are on their way to being my close friend.

4. For the MDC HH's, and the mamas over at MTI (you know who you are ladies).

5. The the roof over my head, food in my belly, and love in my family.

6. Birth and Postpartum doula clients.

7. My working van.

8. Floor heaters in my house.

9. Working Cell Phone.

10. Working Computer.

And I'm thankful for you too,
Jyotsna

Tuesday, November 25, 2008

The Single Parents "Sick Plan", when mom is not well...


Wearing Lakshmi in a sling, while she was sick.



From the time I became a mother, it was understood that I would put my children's needs ahead of my own needs. I jumped right into my role as soon as I became a mom, and no sickness or ill feelings could stop me from caring for my children the way I usually did. I managed to hold on to this idea until the second and third child arrived, making it harder and harder to take care of me. Another thing that happened that I didn't expect, was that my now ex husband had no additional time left to help me when I was sick. The ratio of 3 children to 1 mom finally overwhelmed me. It wasn't until I did become a single mother that I started getting extremely worn out and exhausted. My kids were very young, and as things go, they needed so much time, so many diaper changes, so many feedings, so many baths and it all started over the next day with no rest for me. I could see it was only getting worse and worse, because when you become exhausted, you get sick.

The first time I got sick, I kept on doing the usual. I had to. No one was available to do all the diaper changes, make all the meals and so I kept going until I got diagnosed with pnuemonia. The doctor threatened to make me go straight to the hospital from her office, and I begged her not to make me do that, as I had no one at the time who could take my kids. She allowed me to go home, and yet, I was a very sick mother. I could not lay down flat on my back. I got such little sleep in that elevated position on the couch. My kids quickly realized that this was the time to get into all the things that they couldn't get into before I was sick. I had two 1 year olds climbing the baby gates, spilling food and making messes with everything, and a 5 year old opening the front door in the dead of winter and trying to go out and play.

My mother came by every day after work and she would bring a bag of groceries (things the kids could eat without me cooking) and she would change diapers, give baths and play with the kids for one hour. I was sick and on my back for nearly 6 weeks. That was in the winter of 2002. I thought I had figured everything out.
I planned to never get sick again. Unfortunately, I developed a virus that hit me so badly that I had to be taken to the hospital. I couldn't walk, I couldn't eat, and I was extremely worn out. I stayed in the hospital for several hours while I got fluids, and was told I wouild have to be admitted, and I refused. I didn't have anyone to take my children. Same problem, older children now.
I did recover at home.

Unfortunately, my immune system was so low that I kept getting sick this year, and finally ended up with pnuemonia again. This time, I did end up staying in the hospital for two nights and three days. If I hadn't gone, I would have possibly died. I couldn't breathe, eat or walk. I'm always amazed to hear my married friends talk about being sick. I know they get sick too, but they tell how their husband had to stay home from work to take care of the kids, and how much money they lost. They have no idea how blessed they are to have someone to take over their duties for a while, until they get well. Their immune system gets a chance to recover, unlike a single mother's immune system. I have never had this luxury until I was already very ill and in the hospital. My parents took care of my children and me for nearly a week after this last episode of pneumonia. We all knew how serious it was, and I was on oxygen for two 1/2 days. When I was released from the hospital to my parents care, my mother slept in the room with me. My father sat on the bed next to me while I slept, watching me. They feed and cared for my kids until I was ready to go back to my home. I felt so blessed and lucky that they could do that for me.

Until the day that I am married again, and have someone to take over for me when I am sick, I have come up with a "Sick Plan" to help me when I get sick.

My kids are older, and we have discussed what they need to do when I get sick beyond my ability to take care of them and myself. If your children are old enough, you should have a plan for what to do when mom is sick.

Here's what I do:

Keep things simple.

Drop everything till you're well (chores ect), my health is very important.

Always have milk and juice in the fridge, and peanut butter, bread, breakfast bars, fruit (cut up for young kids), peanuts, almonds and cashews (if they aren't allergic to them). They can survive on this for a week.

Keep names of family and friends who the kids can call (posted on the fridge) in the event of an emergency, or if mom is too sick to care for herself. A neighbor may need to make the call, and this should be clear who she should call, and who will take the children.

Always keep a stock of toilet paper, tissues and paper towels. I ran out of toilet paper last time I was sick, and I had to send my son next door to ask for a couple of rolls!

Keep your cold meds/remedies stocked. The *very* best time to stop a cold is when it first starts. I keep Zycam (nose spray) on hand at all times, as it really works if you start it when you first get that funny itchy feeling in your nose or throat. Also I drink Gypsy Cold Care tea (traditional medicinals) to help with the symptoms, and it really makes a difference. I just prepare the tea, and leave it in a container, and drink it all day long, or sip...even cold.

Keep cell phone charged. If you can't call for help, your out of luck.

Let important people in your family know about your "Sick Plan". Many people don't understand the unique circumstances that single mothers (and fathers) face when sick.

Some mothers have a special shelf that has cold meds, flu meds, favorite tissues, remedies, bottled water, tylenol and anything else they may need while sick. It's more than a medicine cabinet or box. It holds all the things you would need if you got sick. You wouldn't need to leave your house to get these things. Why not be prepared. Being a single mother has its ups and downs. We need to be more prepared when we are sick, since we don't have a partner living with us and taking over whenever we are sick.

Hoping all the single mothers reading this stay well this winter!
And Happy Thanksgiving to all of you!
Jyotsna

Monday, November 24, 2008

Draft Dodgers



Wells you didn't think I was talking about the military kind did you?

My grandmother called them door huggies or draft dodgers, and she always had a basket where she kept these in the summer. When we visited her, we played with them, usually as snakes.

But when the artic airs began to blow, she would bring out the draft dodgers, and
put them in front of her doors. Many years passed before I saw another draft dodger.
My neice made them all for everyone for Christmas one year. It really appealed to the practical nature in me, and years later, I see them in the houses of each one of us, being lovingly used.

If you want to make a draft dodger (door huggie), you can follow the instructions of this mom, who has some good ideas. (Make a draft dodger)

She has good ideas for people who love to follow directions, and the magnetic butterflies are adorabl! However, there are probably many DIY (do it yourself) mamas who read my blog. It's easy to make a cozy draft dodger with a thrift store pillow case and towel. Find the longest (beach) towel you can get, and a king size pillow case. I prefer flannel pillow cases. Simply fold your towel so it will fit in the pillow case length wise, and slide it in. Give your pillow case a slight twist and slide it up to the door. Of course the mom at Juggling Frogs blog has the best idea, since you can simply fasten the dodger to the door, with magnets.

Etsy.com features hand made items, and I found an adorable draft dodger that looks like a tree branch.

This mom uses fabric recycled from a pair of to make a draft dodger. You can make several of them from recycled pants

If you want the "slide under door" type of draft dodger, take a look at the Hampton Direct Twin Draft Guard.

And a homemade version on the "slide under door" draft dodger. These types of draft dodger needs to be slide under the door. It's great for those doors that have room.

No matter what type of draft dodger you use, studies show that 15% of heat loss is from doors and windows. So make draft dodgers for your doors and windows, and perhaps they may be very well recieved gifts during this cold holiday season.

So whether you are making holiday gifts, conserving energy or getting cozy during this Thanksgiving, think about making your very own draft dodgers for every door and window of your house. You'll save money and stay warm.

Happy Thanksgiving!
Jyotsna

Saturday, November 22, 2008

What's your weather?


At this very moment (3:20pm) the temperature is 43 degrees F. This morning at 6am, our temp was 25 degrees F. The day is getting later, and temperatures are falling again. Normally at this time of the year, the weather is still very seasonable. It's cold, "football weather", but a long sleeved shirt and a very nice sweater would keep you warm. This year however, there have been indications that our temperatures are going to be extreme, with the lows being much lower than last year. So far this is been predictably colder. We are still in the fall season, but it feels like winter. November and December are usually very comfortable, and it isn't until January and February that we start getting temps into the 20's and 10's.
I'm seriously worried about what we are going to be facing this winter.


Unseasonably cold temperatures in our area are as below:


Yesterday 1 year ago
Max Temperature 41° 60°
Min Temperature 27° 41°
Heating degree days 31

Last year we had only one snowfall, which lasted two days. We did have two episodes of ice on the ground, but I believe it will be worse this year. If you have heard of the 100 year storm (we had the 100 year thunderstorm recently) and I wonder if we are going to have the 100 year snowfall and ice storm.

Hope you and yours stay warm tonight and all winter.
Warmly,
Jyotsna

Friday, November 21, 2008

Staying Warm (when it's cold outside)




I was looking at my calendar tonight and realized it is 1 week away from Thanksgiving. In our area of the country, it's cold a few weeks before Thanksgiving. I don't ever remember a snow fall near Thanksgiving, but definately
we have had temps in from the high 30's to low 20's. We have been going through
our clothing to see what fits this year, what can be passed on to others, and I am creating a list of items that the children need this year.

Ravi needs a coat, and he found a parka at Target that he likes. It sort of goes
along with the Harry Potter (Hogwarts) scarf that I made him last year.
I'm planning to finish up a hat for him in the same yarn, and all that is left for him (after a coat) is a pair of mittens. I'm actually planning on making these Recycled Mittens for all three of the kids. They look easy enough to make in an afternoon.
Ravi needs a pair of new shoes and some warm socks too.

Lakshmi has literally grown out of everything this year, from her summer clothing to her winter clothing from last winter. She also doesn't have a coat, and I saw these cute parka's at Walmart for $35 each. Lakshmi wants the predominately black one with purple and Priya wants the predominately purple one with black.
Lakshmi still has a hat that fits, that I made her two years ago.
In addition to all the woolens, Lakshmi needs jeans, warm pants, long sleeved shirts, PJ's, warm socks and some tights. I'm really needing a client right now (or more like 2 or 3).

Priya is due a new hat. I made all three kids "holiday" hats about 3 years ago, and they are definately getting on the worn side. I have some nice wool yarn that I can use to make Priya a hat, and that is the plan. Or, I might make a hat to go with her mittens, from the same recycled wool sweater. Maybe I could swing a scarf as well. It's so easy to put together those things once the wool is felted. These are basic sewing skills.
Priya has tons of jeans handed down from Lakshmi, but I need some patches for the knees. That should be easy enough, to iron on some patches and back them up with some finishing stitches. She just needs to be warm. Priya needs long sleeved shirts too, along with tights, and both girls need shoes.

I have a winter action plan for staying warm this year. First I remind the children to wear warm clothing every day. When outside, they have to wear hats and gloves, and button up their coats. I allow them to wear double socks if they want to. Priya has a habit of doubling up her clothing. She is very thin, and I imagine without any fat to insulate her, it is hard to stay warm.

The kids beds each have several sheets and blankets. They can wear a sweater while sleeping if they want to. It's not just keeping the kids clothing on and keeping them warm while outside or while sleeping, but the house needs extra care in the winter.

I have observed the movement of the sun in relation to our house. The sun rises in the east, and that just happens to mean that only one room gets direct sunlight in the morning. We take care to open the blinds in that room as soon as the direct sun light comes through the window. I position the blinds so the sun shines on the floor. This just happens to shine down our dark hallway, and warms up the house from the side all the way into our living room, and lights up the one bedroom, the hallway and living room. It is very cheerful looking in the morning and day time because of that and our house is definately easier to heat up because of the morning sun. If you have any windows that open towards the east, it is best to have the blinds open during the morning (as long as the sun shines through those windows).
Once 3:30pm comes, I check the window, because usually the sunlight on the east side is past the house, and cold falls on that side of the house. We try to remember to close the blind at that time, even though it is still daylight outside. This helps keep the warmth in the house, which was pouring in all day. In the mid to late afternoon, the sun pours in through the two kitchen windows for about 1 1/2 hours.
I watch the clocks to make sure I open the windows. We get alot of sunlight in the kitchen and dining room all through the day, but this is the only time we get direct light, which helps heat the room. Just before this light moves away, I close the blinds and turn on the small heater in the kitchen The kitchen stays warm all evening and night. The temperature in the house drops to 67 or 68 at the coldest part of the night, and rises back up to 70 or 71 in the morning.

We only have one heater in our house presently, and our house is 1500 sq. ft.
We have one large room which we do not use, so we keep that door shut at all times. It is basically used for seasonal things, so there is no need to heat it.

If your kitchen and living room is facing east, then you will be able to warm up those rooms adequetely in the morning through mid-afternoon, that you may not even need a heater like we do. Working with nature instead of against it is very important. When you open your blinds in the kitchen for easternly facing space, the sun will heat up your floor, and in most cases the floor will hold the heat. This is great on feet.

Many people in northern locations use window blankets. These are easy to make.
They require 4 layers of material. You can use cloth, plastic, cardboard and another layer of cloth. The cardboard can be cut to fit the window exactly. If the other three layers are applied by using staples (power is fine) you can simply place the "blanket" in the window, and leave it there. This is particularly good on windows where you don't need light to come into your house.

And The Renewable Energy Site for Do-It-Your-selfers has complete instructions on building Insulating Thermal Window Shutters out of simple things like cardboard and aluminum foil. Check that out here: http://www.builditsolar.com/Projects/Conservation/CardboardShutter.htm

However, if you are going to be taking advantage of the powerful rays of the sun during winter, from the east, you may want to make these,



which allow the sun to penetrate the window, yet keep drafts out, and heat in.
You can find the instructions on these and other simple but effective projects for keeping your house energy effecient here - http://www.builditsolar.com/index.htm

Lastly, make sure you replace any felt on your doors, as this will keep away the drafts. Often however, drafts come in under the door (as well as pest). I have taken a very inexpensive pillow case (size king) and stuffed it with a large but old towel. When the towel is rolled up and place inside the pillow case, you can simply lay the draft "dodger" in front of your door, snugly, and you will notice a difference immediately.

My final advice is to try to keep in mind that heat sources from cooking can really make a difference. Try to plan out your cooking so that you can benefit from the heat. While using a crockpot is energy saving, using your oven is very helpful for giving a cool room a warm boost. The temperature in winter begins to drop around 3:30 - 4:00pm in the afternoon. Baking your bread at that very time will make the most of your ovens abilities.

If you have a wood burning stove (that you are heating with) you can cook on the top of it if it is hot enough. At the very least, you can place a casserole dish filled with water on top, and allow it to hydrate your house.

Don't forget that energy is lost from your extremities the fastest. So keep your head, hands and feet covered if you keep the temperature in your house below 68 degrees.

I hope you all have a happy Thanksgiving next Thursday with your friends and family, and may your days and nights be warm!

Jyotsna

What We're Up To......








I just stared at the calendar very closely and realized; Thanksgiving is only 7 days away! We have been so busy trying to cope with the colder days that I hadn't thought about holidays at all.

Last week I spent most of my time digging through our old wintery hats, gloves, mittens and scarves, to see what else the kids need. Ravi has been modeling his Harry Potter scarf, and if he is lucky, he will get a hat to go along with it soon. He has grown so tall this year too, that much of his winter gear no longer fits, or is a bit tight. I'm planning on buying him a heavy duty winter coat for his holiday gift. He has picked out this jacket http://www.target.com/Boys-Colorblock-Parka-Hat-Red/dp/B001E4ESBS/qid=1227259165/ref=br_1_8/187-3044441-2643734?ie=UTF8&node=978540011&frombrowse=1&rh=&page=1 at Target. He thinks it will go with his scarf!

A friend of mine just gave Lakshmi and Priya a couple of shirts that her daughter (same age) outgrew. Her daughter is Ravi's height, so she is growing out of her clothes in time for Lakshmi and Priya to grow in to them. Lakshmi and Priya are modeling the shirts that they got from her (see above).

I have plans to make all three kids a pair of mittens from recycled wool sweaters (I have the sweaters). However, I have followed the directions on felting the sweaters, and they are only about half felted. I plan to take them to the laundry mat to get some extra hot water for shrinking. Also, a third wash may help alot too.

Here's what http://www.etsy.com/view_listing.php?ref=sr_gallery_20&listing_id=17600631they look like (notice the way the pattern is cut and sewn?).

Jyotsna